I see hooligans molest a young girl round the corner but do not muster up courage to question them or raise any objection lest they cause harm to my personal self or to my family. Mutely I went home pondering momentarily over it & thinking why bother?
Driving back home in the middle of the night I saw a car ahead of mine, driving at breakneck speed & hitting a motor cyclist & throwing him off the road. Slow down I did but neither did I wait to help the injured nor did I chase the offender as I did not want to be bothered with unnecessary enquiry by illiterate & rude cops. Mutely I drove back home.
I was enjoying my weekend drowned in vodka at one of the posh night clubs when suddenly I saw a man grabbing a woman by her private parts “without her intent”. A huge confusion ensued but I did not object pretending to be the most drunk as I thought why bother. Drowned in confusion & pretending to fall at every step, Mutely I moved away from that chaos.
The other day I saw from my balcony about 10 miscreants chasing a hapless young lad down the street. Finally they brought him down with punches, lathis, rods & boot butts. The scene turned quite bloody. I did exactly what I was supposed to do, Mutely I withdrew “even” from my balcony went inside my parlour & continued to watch with revived interest the next proceeding from my adjoining kitchen window.
I have been brought up, trained to think that flying is a luxury & not a necessity till Air Deccan came my way. I hope so is the case with most Indians but then were we all not mute to a much deserved change which was mine & your right until captain Gopinath (the CEO of Air Deccan) took on the aviation industry & made it a middle dream come true.
We all pay our power bills on time I suppose but yet get to see very little of the rare but essential commodity in India called “electricity”. Yet I do not protest for I & you all feel that it is very normal to have 12 hour power cuts. Do you know countries like Dubai, who have no resources than oil do not know what is a power cut. Come on don’t give me that foolish answer which our wily politicians give,” India is a big country & one billion plus population”, then you don’t know China is 1.2 billion plus & it has no power shortages either. Yet mutely I persevere.
I pay all my taxes supposedly to the municipality & other departments.Yes on time, yet I am only given polluted, littered & indiscriminately dug up roads but I mutely drive on them sometimes cursing my fate & at other times musing mutely at the rampant corruption in the corridors of the departments responsible to give me at least a good road to drive on. I could have possibly written to someone or objected via an RTI (right to information) but who cares & why become the bad & the noticed in the eye of these corrupt officials lest they target me for their hafta vasuli hence I do the wisest of things which is to simply turn away & remain mute.
It was not even a fortnight ago that I was proudly declaring to some of my buddies that the street roads in my sector are one of the best in the district, flawless & well tarred. About a week ago there was this anniversary function of a dear couple in the neighborhood. Preparation started in the wee hours of the morning with all enthusiasm as would be the case in your or my family & we were all happy to see the family busying around with the chores preparing for the feast in the evening & then came the most annoying part- The tent house people came & dug up the beautifully built up roads & put up a real grand tent to welcome the guests. Yes they achieved two things by putting up this tent:
(a) They caused enormous inconvenience to the flow of traffic in the sector leaving no option but to take a u-turn & cause unnecessary chaos & traffic snarl.
(b) They definitely prepared the roads to be the worst in the coming monsoons as these holes they dug up to erect the tent would prove as catalyst for the rain water to penetrate the lower strata of the roads & do them in during severe rains.
Yet what did I do, as usual remained a mute spectator, sufferer & bore it with the best behavior with a smile as I did not want to be the odd one out causing confusion in my neighborhood.
The other day while I was driving back home I observed that the traffic police had put up a diversion on the road to take care of the wee hour traffic & infact they were doing a good job of it not until the car ahead of me with “dark glasses” (illegal), “Red beacon light” (illegal) & bold inscription on the front & the back number plate as “paarshad” (again illegal) as per supreme court directives; decided to go against the diversion obstructing the oncoming traffic. Surprise, surprise the car stopped right under the nose of the traffic cop, the driver side window came down about six inches & momentarily greeted the traffic cop (who was understandably all smiles ) & then sped away to its destination. I fumed, stopped my car (momentarily), pondered helplessly on the state of affairs in my state & then as usual drove off remaining mute. I did it in all wisdom though why should take up the brunt of the administration & know not of how many hooligans if I were to object that shameless mockery of law.
What more it was a lot of perennial effort from the makers of the movie “Rang de Basanti” to have come about just in time & possibly an inspired radio FM to instigate many of us to be woken up & raise our voices otherwise I still wonder what would have become of the “Jessica Lal case” or the “Priyadarshini Mattoo case”.
How long will it be before we like the "1857 revolt - the uprising" stop being mute & find enough courage to protest the wrong & bring about a postive MUT(E)INY”.
Saturday, May 12, 2007
Thursday, May 3, 2007
DIVORCE & BROKEN RELATIONSHIPS
Ah! the pain of a broken relationship & the trauma of the path that you tread on your way to Divorce!!I feel, no heart can realise a more excruciating pain than this.
But my dear if you want to control this situation you can easily do it; yes it costs money to seek advice but surely it is worth while if you can actually save a relationship that you sometime back cherished as the most valuable treasure in your life.
Don't let go your loved one that easily.Why not give this a try?
I would do that for the one for whom, once I thought I could die for.Won't you?A simple analysis from a third angle or to understand a third empire may work miracles for you!!If you feel this interests you why not key in your questions & comments & let's see how we could save your relationship.Hope this builds up your home from a house.
But my dear if you want to control this situation you can easily do it; yes it costs money to seek advice but surely it is worth while if you can actually save a relationship that you sometime back cherished as the most valuable treasure in your life.
Don't let go your loved one that easily.Why not give this a try?
I would do that for the one for whom, once I thought I could die for.Won't you?A simple analysis from a third angle or to understand a third empire may work miracles for you!!If you feel this interests you why not key in your questions & comments & let's see how we could save your relationship.Hope this builds up your home from a house.
3 magical words - to keep your woman
This is the simple mantra for a married man as the unmarried would always do it :
A LOOK - Find some time every day to do nothing else but spent some time looking into the eye of your woman (your wife).
A TOUCH - Find some time to hold her hand & just sit there or walk even for 5 minutes is a good start. It will be quite an effort in rediscovering your togetherness.& finally
A WORD - Take her name & looking into her eyes & holding her hand (don't whisper) but say it those 3 words which you might be bored of by now i.e." I love you". Though you always said it effortlessly & unconsciously during your courtship, you will see how things have changed & that this time it is quite an effort but my dear man, it is an effort worth it.
Give it a try & let me know how both of you felt.Enjoy your rediscovered togetherness!!
A LOOK - Find some time every day to do nothing else but spent some time looking into the eye of your woman (your wife).
A TOUCH - Find some time to hold her hand & just sit there or walk even for 5 minutes is a good start. It will be quite an effort in rediscovering your togetherness.& finally
A WORD - Take her name & looking into her eyes & holding her hand (don't whisper) but say it those 3 words which you might be bored of by now i.e." I love you". Though you always said it effortlessly & unconsciously during your courtship, you will see how things have changed & that this time it is quite an effort but my dear man, it is an effort worth it.
Give it a try & let me know how both of you felt.Enjoy your rediscovered togetherness!!
The Rape specialists
Not one day can I note where our newspapers do not report rape. It seems our society is specialising in a harmful ideology called "Rape".
I often wonder how can a man prepare himself to destroy the integrity of a 3 or 4 year old. Is it animal instinct?
When I look into the face of an infant or a baby girl there is an instant connection a connection of pure love, love for the sheer innocence of that beautiful child & my heart gets overwhelmed with a wonderful show of affection. So then my question is how & when does this dark devilish thought get into the mind of a rapist.It should be a case of sheer physcomaniac tendency or urge.
In case of a grown up adult woman I guess there could be n number of reasons like fatal attraction for an overexposed genre or atleast there would be the under cover features of a woman, coupled with his idea of fun, complemented with his state of deprivation of legitimate open sex in our society - which (sadly though) might have driven the urges of this animal to burst out.
So then who is responsible for this societal mess?
I think it is many factors in sync which are responsible:
(a) Our Religion - I say this because religion is something that is actually given to me without my consent but by default depending on which family I am born into.If I am born into a hindu family I become a hindu & if I am born in a muslim family I become a muslim by default. Is it therefore not the responsibility of this religion that it ensures that I am trained to control my carnal desires so as not be used by force or where it should not be used. Yes it is the reposnsibility of my religion to train me to respect the integrity of a "girl" or a "woman" friend & never to let her feel like a filth.
(b) Our familial set up
(c) Our Society
(d) Our Policing ( Newspapers say they themselves enjoy such deplorable acts)
(e) Our Custodians of law - the politicians ( who themselves are hand in gloves to such heinous crimes which mostly go unreported- Thanks to the media who have helped expose atleast a few)Much though still needs to be said & done.
The saying in the fine print is: If forcible entry into a property is charged under robbery & forcible intrusion then destroying the sancitity of a human form against her will should be charged as murder.
I often wonder how can a man prepare himself to destroy the integrity of a 3 or 4 year old. Is it animal instinct?
When I look into the face of an infant or a baby girl there is an instant connection a connection of pure love, love for the sheer innocence of that beautiful child & my heart gets overwhelmed with a wonderful show of affection. So then my question is how & when does this dark devilish thought get into the mind of a rapist.It should be a case of sheer physcomaniac tendency or urge.
In case of a grown up adult woman I guess there could be n number of reasons like fatal attraction for an overexposed genre or atleast there would be the under cover features of a woman, coupled with his idea of fun, complemented with his state of deprivation of legitimate open sex in our society - which (sadly though) might have driven the urges of this animal to burst out.
So then who is responsible for this societal mess?
I think it is many factors in sync which are responsible:
(a) Our Religion - I say this because religion is something that is actually given to me without my consent but by default depending on which family I am born into.If I am born into a hindu family I become a hindu & if I am born in a muslim family I become a muslim by default. Is it therefore not the responsibility of this religion that it ensures that I am trained to control my carnal desires so as not be used by force or where it should not be used. Yes it is the reposnsibility of my religion to train me to respect the integrity of a "girl" or a "woman" friend & never to let her feel like a filth.
(b) Our familial set up
(c) Our Society
(d) Our Policing ( Newspapers say they themselves enjoy such deplorable acts)
(e) Our Custodians of law - the politicians ( who themselves are hand in gloves to such heinous crimes which mostly go unreported- Thanks to the media who have helped expose atleast a few)Much though still needs to be said & done.
The saying in the fine print is: If forcible entry into a property is charged under robbery & forcible intrusion then destroying the sancitity of a human form against her will should be charged as murder.
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